Okay, so I need your help. Seriously, I do. I am dealing with something that I have never dealt with before. Separation Anxiety. Little Man is 17 1/2 months old, and is most definitely at his peak with this SA. Here's a little peek into my days: LM wakes up around 6am everyday. He won't leave his crib without his trusty Bear. He then wants to cuddle for close to 30 minutes. (Only a month ago or so, he would get up, walk out of his room, go play, all smiles, giggling, just happy). Cuddling is fine, don't get me wrong. But he doesn't seem happy. I know he's been cutting lots of teeth in the last couple of months, and has had one minor cold as well. I can't help but think maybe he's having "growing pains" as well. After he fully wakes up, I try putting him down. And it starts. He cries. I walk away, he follows me, crying. Daddy can't console, big brother and sister can't console. I put him in his highchair for breakfast. He's fine if I'm sitting next to him, helping him eat. But that few minutes it takes to make his oatmeal, or cut up the banana, or add Peanut butter to the toast is like torture for him! He is totally fine when I'm sitting right there. Laughs, eats well, (hasn't lost his appetite at all), etc. But if I get up and walk five feet to the frig or sink, he starts in. He follows me around the house all day. My house is NOT big....it is wide open spaces, so he can usually always see me from his toys, his books, wherever he may be. I spend A LOT of time on the floor lately!!! Thank goodness for obedient older children who love him so much, that they try hard to play, and when he still just wants Mommy, they help pick up things, do the chores, so at least my house does not fall apart around Little Man and I as we read books and Books, and more BOOKS.... It is even to the point where not only does he want to go into the bathroom with me when I go, but now he must stand close, and yes, be hugging me as I pee!! If I need to shower, I can only do it when he is sleeping, or else he sits outside the door, and says Mommy Mommy Mommy about 80,000 times. Believe me, I counted. The only thing that works, sort of, is if someone takes him outside.
Yesterday we went to Nanny and Papa's for lunch (my parents). He loves them. Gets all excited when I talk about it. But we get there, and when he is put down for just a millisecond, he started crying. I put him in the highchair, and then took 3 steps to get his food....he just cries! I know my family loves him so dearly, and they all try to console, but he just pushes people away, and screams. My dad is very old-school, and doesn't get it. At one point, he even said "you're bad!" It was in a teasing, supposed to be, funny voice, but it bothered me. It bothered my mom too, because she said, "Papa! He's not bad! Don't say that!" I can't help but think my dad thinks I am raising a spoiled brat. Sometimes I wonder myself. What am I doing wrong??? My older two never went through this. And I was a SAHM then too. The only thing that is different is that I used to babysit other children when the older two were young. It has only been Little Man and I from the beginning. When daddy goes to work, and Mr. Smarty Pants and Girly Girl go to school, its 7 hours of just us. I do play dates with my sister and her kids sometimes, he goes to Sabbath School each week, we do the normal shopping and walks, all that too. He's not isolated. I've done some reading, and I just hope this too shall pass. But what I am hoping from you guys, is some Yes, I've been there too and here's the fix!!! What have YOU done? How bad has it been? Any stories to share with me so I don't feel so over-whelmed and alone with this?? He sleeps now, and I watch the clock, feeling like I am on a time-limit to just be ME. I hate going to bed at night, even though I am so exhausted. Yesterday at my mom and dad's, I took a small walk, YES with Little Man, and shed some tears that made me feel better, but at the same time, worse. I have great Daddy support, he tries everything, which I must say, must also not be easy when his baby boy just screams Mommy the whole time.
Thank you for reading, and I look forward to your HELP!! Okay.......waiting.......refresh page.....again......again........biting nails.....watching clock......refresh............................... :)